Wednesday, November 25, 2015

Hijacked conversations . . . Having Self Awareness . . .

Self Awareness ~ Hijacked conversation . . . There’s a lot of things that people can work on, however being SELF AWARENESS is one of the most critical elements of communication.  When interfacing with someone else, you’ve heard the terms this is an A and B conversation, so C your way out of it.  What does this really mean?  It means, you entered the conversation in which someone doesn’t feel you belong and they don’t want you involved.  People amaze me, sometimes, and I’m being facetious.   People lack Self Awareness, most of the time.  I was the same way, until someone pulled me aside and made me realize.  And sometimes I probably still am unaware.  However, on most occasions I am very aware of how I enter, converse and add to a conversation.  There are many levels of conversations from the controlling the conversation “Type A” personality to the observant trying to take it all in and then there’s the optimistic – agreeing with everything, knows everyone and knows a little bit about everything or in some cases, nothing.  Regardless of which type you are, or how you are involved in a conversation, the question still remains, are you self-aware?  If not, this is an area in which we can work on.  This is a critical factor in communication and an area that you cannot overlook or be afraid to tackle.  Simply put, you NEED to be self-aware.  How you are projecting and being perceived can be vital to your career or your life.   

Coffee Coaches is hosting a workshop, both in person, 1:1 and also WebEx for your viewing pleasure.  We are going to create an environment where you are very self-aware.  Where you understand how you are being perceived and you learn how you are coming across.  This is not a simply task, however it is easy. You just have to come into this workshop with an open mind and not be defensive.  After all, this is for you.  This workshop is designed to help you become more self-aware.   

Harness your Awareness is a great workshop to help you become self-aware. 

Visit www.coffeecoaches.com and inquire. 

Steve will help guide your career and help you maximize your potential.  After all Coffee Coaches was founded on this principal – Maximizing your Potential

Thank you,


Steve

Monday, November 16, 2015

Breathe in COURAGE and exhale F E A R . . .

Da!ly Dr!ve . . . v2 of 52 . . .

It’s STARTS with a POSITIVE (+) ATTITUDE and ends with . . . Well, this is your story too, so you finish the sentence . . .

You’ve heard before . . . It’s not what happens to you that matters, rather how you react to what happens to you . . . And that’s simply it ~ YOUR POSITIVE ATTITUDE . . . continuing to stay positive during adversity . . . On Sunday, Nov. 15th hundreds and thousands of Triathletes set out to Swim, Bike and Run the IMAZ – Ironman Arizona 140.6 miles . . . Through the rain, the wind and the cold . . . many were tired, cold, wet and nervous, but they kept on . . . And many of them accomplished their goals . . . Why, not because they trained, not because they showed up and swam, biked or ran, but because they were determined to finish – they had a strong mental and positive attitude which carried them through the difficult times and helped them be strong, when it would be easy to just stop . . . You see, our minds have a way of allowing us to continue to press on, our bodies will do almost whatever it is our mind believes . . .  While I sat inside, watched TV and chilled out . . . Hundreds of people were working hard, all day, some more than 16 hours, to accomplish a goal that I have yet to tackle.  Why, there are many reasons why.  For me, I don’t enjoy running, so I have not yet signed up for a full Ironman.  But that’s not the whole truth.  I haven’t signed up because I’m afraid of the run, not because I can’t do it.  I’ve completed only one marathon, to date, and it was painful.  It was not fun.  It was boring, which is why I quickly switched to Triathlons, which is definitely better for me (suits my personality – boredom).

Today, starts my new, non-complaining, revised patience, calm and collective attitude process . . . I found myself getting caught up in the minutia of everything and not really focusing on the MAIN thing – which is keeping the main thing the main thing, which is BEING POSITIVE . . . For me, this means building my consulting practice and being able to help people (of all backgrounds) and coaching, mentoring and giving back. . . In addition, I am planning to write and publish my first book.  After listening to The Seven Habits of highly Effective People: focusing on #1 Be proactive #2 Begin with the END in mind #3 Put first things first #4 Think WIN – WIN #5 Seek to Understand then to be understood #6 Synergize & #7 Sharpen the Saw . . . Stephen Covey (1989) The Seven Habits of highly Effective People. 


Today, we are focusing on Being Proactive – Starting the day off with a POSITIVE ATTTITUDE, regardless.  SMILE . . . It’s contagious.  I know, it does sounds cheesy, but it’s infectious and people want to be around positive and happy people.  They are more likely to be approached, to be engaging in conversation, more willing to help out and give back.  

Monday, November 9, 2015

Train like an UNDERDOGG but PLAY like a CHAMPION . . .

Da!ly Dr!ve . . . started today, Monday Nov. 9th, which is the first week of a 52 series Blog on Da!ly Nuggets  . . . Little bits and pieces, digestible amounts of content to chew on for the day, week and reflect back, if needed.

I read a quote that said "Don't bite of more than you can chew . . . However I would rather chock on greatness than nibble on Mediocrity". 

Today, we're going to start to nibble on mediocrity, then start to bite off more than we can chew to achieve greatness.  

When I think of Da!ly Dr!ve . . . I think and feel . . . PASSION . . . What DR!VES me DA!LY?

When I look in the mirror, what do I see?  Rather, who do I want to see?

There's a slight difference from the face that I see to the actual success that I really want to see.  Let's face it (literally) there's not a slight difference, rather a HUGE GAP in who I am today and who I want to be tomorrow . . . 

So many things race through my head, each and every day.  So many emotions.  So much passion. from Excitement, to Rage, from Sorrow & Sadness to Joy & Happiness.  From Regret to Success . . . All the while I am still POSITIVE, yet disappointed . . . 

Introspection . . . in·tro·spec·tion
ˌintrəˈspekSH(ə)n/
noun
  1. the examination or observation of one's own mental and emotional processes.
    "quiet introspection can be extremely valuable"
    synonyms:self-analysisself-examinationsoul-searching, introversion, self-

Self-awareness is the capacity for introspection and the ability to recognize oneself as an individual separate from the environment and other individuals.


Now I'm not a Doctor nor a psychiatrist, nor am I trying to cure anyone or anything, I'm just a regular guy with a STRONG DESIRE to SUCCEED . . . Back in 2001, I started mentoring and training people, mainly sales people, at first.  Taking HIPOTENTIALS under my wings and helping them become successful.  When applied, it was very effective.  And for 14 years, I've been honing my craft and perfecting myself and others.  I've had 10 professional jobs in 21 years (roughly 1 every other year) . . . So you could say that I have some experience, both good and bad.  I've had some really great bosses and some really terrible bosses.  I also, always speak my mind.  I believe . . . Say what you mean and mean what you say.  It has not always served me well, but at least I can sleep at night.  I've stood alone, many time before and have been ridiculed for it.  Again, at least I can sleep at night.  I've helped more people than I can count and a lot of them have appreciated my service.  When I look back and count the hours of one on one personal coaching, it's well over 17,000 hours and well over 1560 people, personally, in one way or another.  Weather it's career coaching, career promoting or career transition, I've been there for people more than I can count.  And I LOVE IT . . . That's why I started Coffee Coaches and I'm now, starting this blog.  so if you have any feedback and you want to share, both good and bad, I always welcome feedback.  

Thank you for stopping by my blog site and ready this.  I would really appreciated it if you would watch my two video's, which are less than 2 min. each.

YouTube Video:

Mon. Nov. 9th. - check it out . . . 
  
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gS4bJBdBif4

Please send comments through my website at:

www.coffeecoaches.com

Thank you ~ Steve Higginbotham "Coffee Coach"  coffeecoach@outlook.com

Check back next Monday November 16th for Da!ly Dr!ve v2 (2 of 52) . . .